Diane Halfman
Undercover Lives
Diane Halfman was an undercover cop for the San Diego Police Department where she experienced a unique perspective of life behind the scenes. Diane took her years of experience to pioneer the creation of her own company called SpaLife which stands for Seek Power Always. As the host of the Live Your SpaLife Podcast and as the RESET Specialist Diane Halfman travels the country speaking, consulting, conducting workshops dedicated to helping overwhelmed women entrepreneurs move from a life of emergency to emergence.
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It was never Diane Halfman’s plan to walk the streets and become a prostitute, yet alone get involved with vicious gangs and narcotics, but her life choices put her in grave circumstances. Danger became a way of life for Diane forcing her to carry a gun in her hand every day for 10 years. You see, Diane Halfman was an undercover cop for the San Diego Police department. Her job was to infiltrate the gangs and prostitutes, bust the John’s, bring ’em down and clean up the streets.
Diane understands fear and survival instincts—she lived them, and knows what it takes to find your grit, perseverance and power to push through any challenge. After being medically retired from the police department as a result of a training accident, Diane took her years of experience along with her Master’s in Human Resources Management and Certification as an Ultimate Game of Life Coach to pioneer the creation of her own company called SpaLife. SPA is an acronym for Seek Power Always. Her podcast, “Live Your SpaLife” is a call to action for all women to define and create the life they truly want.
As the RESET Specialist Diane Halfman travels the country speaking, consulting, conducting workshops and seminars dedicated to helping overwhelmed women entrepreneurs move from a life of emergency to emergence. Diane possesses a unique set of skills and life experiences that allow her to coach, guide and demonstrate the very techniques she used to RESET her own life and those of countless others. Her passion is to teach women how to be their own cop – walking in the world with more confidence, optimism and power.
“True power doesn’t exist outside of us. You are your own power!”
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I held a gun in this hand for 10 years In the span of 24 hours I would kiss my daughter’s Samantha and Elizabeth good night, arrive at the substation as a uniformed cop then transform into an undercover prostitute on the hunt for a serial killer.
Every day I was placing my life in jeopardy over and over again to help other people. But at the end of the day I would feel empty because I wasn’t taking the time to check in with myself and ask what I really wanted.
As it turns out, when you go undercover you build up these layers. The skirt that’s a little too short with the purple bustier. The 4-inch gold pumps. The red lipstick and the red toe polish because that’s the favorite color of the toe fetish guys. Thinking escape strategies while cooing with seduction. Layer after layer of what’s NOT you.
After a while I started to be undercover in my own life long after I was off the street. Everything looked great on the outside. Perfect family. Beautiful house with a pool. Great Scripps Ranch neighborhood. It was the perfect cover.
Yet on the inside I had so many questions: Where was my common sense? Was I really supposed to forgive my boyfriend for getting his ex-wife pregnant while he was with me? How do I make my new business work? Why am I so overwhelmed? Will I let confusion stop me? My inner doubts became a layer of protection keeping me from really being seen or asking for help. There is a difference between being visible and being really seen. And I was literally hiding in plain sight.
Then I noticed I was starting to hesitate, like second guess myself. Would I be able to protect my daughters from being kidnapped and killed like my friend’s daughter? In police work, when you hesitate you die. In life, if you hesitate you also die it’s just a slower death. So, I started shedding layers. Like getting rid of my narcissistic boyfriend. Like removing tension from my body, toxic people and traumatic thinking. With every layer I got rid of I found a little more of me.
Eventually after I shed all the layers, I discovered my true power. I broke out of the mold of being undercover. I found out that staying undercover was just covering up my fear of being seen.
You might have heard the saying “Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.”
So Instead of shining the light outside, I started shining the light inside and trusting myself and my innate knowing.
I find a lot of people I come in contact with are also looking for power outside of themselves just like I did.
True power doesn’t exist outside of us. You are your own power!
And I’m going to encourage you, no I’m going to dare you, to discover, embrace and lead using the power that lies within you.
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